Tell us about your wedding dress.
I had five wedding dresses in total; two were bespoke, three were rental. Because our wedding was over two days (a solemnisation and reception for my husband's family and a reception for mine), we needed two different traditional outfits. I had set my sights on Yaya from Peti Solek — The Bridal Room and Nora Zee as my bridal houses right from the start.
And your bespoke gowns?
When Rid, a really good friend of mine, approached me with the idea of wearing something that he made, it was a no-brainer. I said yes immediately; he already had a design and fabric in mind that he felt would flatter my frame. We worked on the design together and within three weeks, I was ready for my first fitting. It was a very simple process, one without tears or drama! As for the second dress which I wore during my family's reception, it was made by Mas Angelina from Arared, a Malaysian-based designer. We made a trip down to KL six months before the wedding to discuss fabrics, patterns, silhouettes – basically everything that I'm looking for in a dress. Because Arared was known for their romantic and feminine detailing, I knew I wanted flowers in a flowy silhouette.
Who did you bring to your dress appointments?
My in-laws came for the fittings of the traditional outfits. It was important to have our parents as part of the process because we wanted them to be involved with our planning as much as possible. The look on my father-in-law's face when he saw my now-husband in the traditional outfit was priceless! He probably had flashbacks of his younger self on his wedding day. I wouldn't trade that for anything in the world. Naturally, I had to have back-up, so my two best friends were there with me too – to zip me up, help my put on my shoes and be my moral support. They are brutally honest so I know I can trust them to say it like it is!
How do you feel about your dress now?
I still love my dresses. For a few months after the wedding I would occasionally put them on just because. I couldn't do that anymore six months after the wedding because we got pregnant.
Is there anything you would change about the them?
Considering that I had five dresses (never too many!), I would say that the custom-made dresses went above and beyond my expectations. What I would do differently though are my traditional outfits. Because they were rental, the dresses understandably weren't tailored specially for my frame. A few hundred others have been in them and the designs were limited too. So if I could have a do-over, I'd have the bridal house tailor a traditional outfit.
Did you lose weight or get into a diet for your wedding?
I wished I had worked out more. I wasn't frantically working out but I was clocking in about two hours per week with interval training just so that I was sweating it out and that the flabby bits were contained. Although it didn't make that much of a difference because Spanx saved the day.
What do you intend on doing with your dresses?
I foresee perhaps a 10-year anniversary shoot, if I can still fit them! It would mean the world to me for my daughter Leia to consider wearing one of them in her future wedding (no pressure there, kiddo). The dresses are definitely hers if she wants them. Otherwise, they will always have a place in my closet.